隨身英語 How to be charming 如何變得魅力四射?

為什么有的人招人喜歡，人見人愛？為什么有的人不管走到哪里都可以廣交朋友？本集《隨身英語》教你如何與人建立融洽的關系及社交禮儀中友誼的“黃金法則”。

課文內容 Vocabulary: social etiquette 詞匯: 社交禮儀

Life isn’t fair. Some people just seem blessed with the ability to effortlessly charm anyone they meet. You know the kind of person, the one who can strike up a conversation with a complete stranger and end up with a new friend or business lead. How do they do it?

Well, it might seem like a magical power, but in fact there are a number of factors at work. So, can you learn to develop superhuman charm? The answer is: to a large extent, yes you can.

But first, the bad news. Scientists have found that people initially judge each other based purely on physical appearance. With just a fleeting glimpse of a face, people make snap judgements about each other’s likeability, trustworthiness and confidence, according to Alexander Todorov, professor of psychology at Princeton University.

How to counteract this? There’s one incredibly simple tool: your smile. Todorov told the BBC that people perceive a smiling face as “more trustworthy, warmer and sociable”. It sounds like common sense, doesn’t it? Smile and others will smile with you.

What other tricks might we have up our sleeves? Former FBI agent Jack Schafer has been trained in how to influence people. He told BBC Capital: “Our brains are always surveying the environment for friend or foe signals.” Three things we can do to signal that we are not a threat are to: raise our eyebrows quickly, tilt our heads slightly, and, once again, to smile.

So we’ve looked at body language, but of course what you say is hugely important too, unless you want to just stand there grinning foolishly. Here Schafer recommends that “the golden rule of friendship is if you make people feel good about themselves, they’re going to like you.” In other words, you need to show interest in them, instead of talking about yourself and all your wonderful achievements. And while you’re chatting, remember this: another way of showing interest is to mirror their physical position.

Another way to form a connection? Find common ground. Suzanne de Janasz, a professor of management with Seattle University, says that charming people are particularly adept at seeking out shared interests or experiences to help them build rapport. Simple things like asking where someone’s from really can open up a discussion and allow you to find areas in common. And if all else fails, you can fall back on that most British of topics: the weather. Glorious day, isn’t it?

詞匯表 blessed 命好的，幸運的

effortlessly 不費吹灰之力地

strike up a conversation（與人）攀談

complete stranger 徹頭徹尾的陌生人

lead 線索，頭緒

superhuman 超乎常人的

to a large extent 在很大程度上

snap judgement 快速、草率的判斷

likeability 喜歡程度

trustworthiness 可信度

counteract 對抗

sociable 合群的，好交際的

have something up your sleeve “留一手”，暗藏某物以備不時之需

foe 敵人

tilt（使）傾斜

grin 咧嘴笑

golden rule 黃金法則，重要的原則

mirror 效仿

common ground 共同點

rapport 融洽的關系

fall back on 借助于

測驗與練習 1. 閱讀課文并回答問題。

1. Why is talking about yourself a bad idea??

2. Which four things can we do with our bodies to help us connect with others?? ? ??

3. Does the author seem surprised that smiling is a good idea?? ??

4. Which word means ‘stupidly’???

5. True or false: Our appearance influences what others think of us.

2. 請你在不參考課文的情況下完成下列練習。選擇一個意思合適的單詞填入句子的空格處 。

1. Don’t worry about Lewis. He has a few ______ sleeve.

tricks for your? ? ? ?tricks in his? ? ? ?tricks up his? ? ? ?tricks up your

2. We have no ______. I’m sorry, we just don’t share any interests at all.

charm? ? ? ?mirror? ? ? ?in common? ? ? ?common ground

3. Mei carried her new fridge all the way home from the shop. She has?______ strength.

superhuman? ? ? ?blessed? ? ? ?common? ? ? ?effortless

4. I’ve always been very ______. I prefer being with other people than on my own.

likeable? ? ? ?confident? ? ? ?trustworthy? ? ? ?sociable?

5. I don’t agree with you. What you say is true?______ extent, but most of it is inaccurate.

to your? ? ? ?to some? ? ? ?to no? ? ? ?to a large

答案 1. 閱讀課文并回答問題。

1. Why is talking about yourself a bad idea??

Jack Schafer believes the best way to make friends is to show interest in other people and make them feel good about themselves, rather than talk about yourself.

2. Which four things can we do with our bodies to help us connect with others?

Smiling, tilting our heads, raising our eyebrows quickly and mirroring the person we’re speaking to can help us build rapport, according to the report.

3. Does the author seem surprised that smiling is a good idea?

The author indicates that smiling seems like “common sense”, in other words something everyone knows naturally, and is therefore not surprised.

4. Which word means ‘stupidly’?

Foolishly.? ?? ? ?

5. True or false: Our appearance influences what others think of us.

True. According to Professor Todorov, we make quick judgements about each other based on appearance. But our body language and conversational skills can counteract this.

2. 請你在不參考課文的情況下完成下列練習。選擇一個意思合適的單詞填入句子的空格處。

1. Don’t worry about Lewis. He has a few tricks up his sleeve.

2. We have no common ground. I’m sorry, we just don’t share any interests at all.

3. Mei carried her new fridge all the way home from the shop. She has superhuman strength.

4. I’ve always been very sociable. I prefer being with other people than on my own.

5. I don’t agree with you. What you say is true to some extent, but most of it is inaccurate.

隨身英語 How to be charming 如何變得魅力四射?

為什么有的人招人喜歡，人見人愛？為什么有的人不管走到哪里都可以廣交朋友？本集《隨身英語》教你如何與人建立融洽的關系及社交禮儀中友誼的“黃金法則”。

課文內容 Vocabulary: social etiquette 詞匯: 社交禮儀

Life isn’t fair. Some people just seem blessed with the ability to effortlessly charm anyone they meet. You know the kind of person, the one who can strike up a conversation with a complete stranger and end up with a new friend or business lead. How do they do it?

Well, it might seem like a magical power, but in fact there are a number of factors at work. So, can you learn to develop superhuman charm? The answer is: to a large extent, yes you can.

But first, the bad news. Scientists have found that people initially judge each other based purely on physical appearance. With just a fleeting glimpse of a face, people make snap judgements about each other’s likeability, trustworthiness and confidence, according to Alexander Todorov, professor of psychology at Princeton University.

How to counteract this? There’s one incredibly simple tool: your smile. Todorov told the BBC that people perceive a smiling face as “more trustworthy, warmer and sociable”. It sounds like common sense, doesn’t it? Smile and others will smile with you.

What other tricks might we have up our sleeves? Former FBI agent Jack Schafer has been trained in how to influence people. He told BBC Capital: “Our brains are always surveying the environment for friend or foe signals.” Three things we can do to signal that we are not a threat are to: raise our eyebrows quickly, tilt our heads slightly, and, once again, to smile.

So we’ve looked at body language, but of course what you say is hugely important too, unless you want to just stand there grinning foolishly. Here Schafer recommends that “the golden rule of friendship is if you make people feel good about themselves, they’re going to like you.” In other words, you need to show interest in them, instead of talking about yourself and all your wonderful achievements. And while you’re chatting, remember this: another way of showing interest is to mirror their physical position.

Another way to form a connection? Find common ground. Suzanne de Janasz, a professor of management with Seattle University, says that charming people are particularly adept at seeking out shared interests or experiences to help them build rapport. Simple things like asking where someone’s from really can open up a discussion and allow you to find areas in common. And if all else fails, you can fall back on that most British of topics: the weather. Glorious day, isn’t it?

詞匯表 blessed 命好的，幸運的

effortlessly 不費吹灰之力地

strike up a conversation（與人）攀談

complete stranger 徹頭徹尾的陌生人

lead 線索，頭緒

superhuman 超乎常人的

to a large extent 在很大程度上

snap judgement 快速、草率的判斷

likeability 喜歡程度

trustworthiness 可信度

counteract 對抗

sociable 合群的，好交際的

have something up your sleeve “留一手”，暗藏某物以備不時之需

foe 敵人

tilt（使）傾斜

grin 咧嘴笑

golden rule 黃金法則，重要的原則

mirror 效仿

common ground 共同點

rapport 融洽的關系

fall back on 借助于

測驗與練習 1. 閱讀課文并回答問題。

1. Why is talking about yourself a bad idea??

2. Which four things can we do with our bodies to help us connect with others?? ? ??

3. Does the author seem surprised that smiling is a good idea?? ??

4. Which word means ‘stupidly’???

5. True or false: Our appearance influences what others think of us.

2. 請你在不參考課文的情況下完成下列練習。選擇一個意思合適的單詞填入句子的空格處 。

1. Don’t worry about Lewis. He has a few ______ sleeve.

tricks for your? ? ? ?tricks in his? ? ? ?tricks up his? ? ? ?tricks up your

2. We have no ______. I’m sorry, we just don’t share any interests at all.

charm? ? ? ?mirror? ? ? ?in common? ? ? ?common ground

3. Mei carried her new fridge all the way home from the shop. She has?______ strength.

superhuman? ? ? ?blessed? ? ? ?common? ? ? ?effortless

4. I’ve always been very ______. I prefer being with other people than on my own.

likeable? ? ? ?confident? ? ? ?trustworthy? ? ? ?sociable?

5. I don’t agree with you. What you say is true?______ extent, but most of it is inaccurate.

to your? ? ? ?to some? ? ? ?to no? ? ? ?to a large

答案 1. 閱讀課文并回答問題。

1. Why is talking about yourself a bad idea??

Jack Schafer believes the best way to make friends is to show interest in other people and make them feel good about themselves, rather than talk about yourself.

2. Which four things can we do with our bodies to help us connect with others?

Smiling, tilting our heads, raising our eyebrows quickly and mirroring the person we’re speaking to can help us build rapport, according to the report.

3. Does the author seem surprised that smiling is a good idea?

The author indicates that smiling seems like “common sense”, in other words something everyone knows naturally, and is therefore not surprised.

4. Which word means ‘stupidly’?

Foolishly.? ?? ? ?

5. True or false: Our appearance influences what others think of us.

True. According to Professor Todorov, we make quick judgements about each other based on appearance. But our body language and conversational skills can counteract this.

2. 請你在不參考課文的情況下完成下列練習。選擇一個意思合適的單詞填入句子的空格處。

1. Don’t worry about Lewis. He has a few tricks up his sleeve.

2. We have no common ground. I’m sorry, we just don’t share any interests at all.

3. Mei carried her new fridge all the way home from the shop. She has superhuman strength.

4. I’ve always been very sociable. I prefer being with other people than on my own.

5. I don’t agree with you. What you say is true to some extent, but most of it is inaccurate.